Hear me out first please…
Just like how the saying goes “ignorance is bliss”. I can’t agree more.
I get a twisting, anxious, flutter in my stomach when I witness someone do or say something that reflects complete ignorance. The feeling worsens when I try to help someone out of their foggy stupor. My frustrations say “slap them out of it!” while my common sense says “girl you can’t handle what might come after that slap”.
After realizing I am an adult with responsibilities I force myself into a mental hermit crab-like shell. At this point I can only turn away to not witness someone being informed and still making a bad decision or still not understanding the light being brought to them.
1. Bad spellers. I have friends who have not been hired, or passed certain tests because they don’t know the difference between woman (singular) or women (plural) and so on. They wonder why they are not taken seriously and I just wonder how often they read – like real published books not their friend’s status check ins.
2. Side chicks. He only calls you certain times. You never met his family or friends. He doesn’t like titles. He’s inconsiderate about your time. He hopes you’re not jealous, because he’s going to be in SO many situations that will make you question his loyalty. Even if you really are the only woman (singular) that he’s seeing; do you really want to spend the rest of your dating or married life second guessing or making excuses for why you’re still with a shady guy? If your answer is yes then let’s not be friends. Ok?
3. Financially irresponsible people. I’ll always remember my college days when a bunch of us worked on campus making $9/hour which was big money to us. When payday came around we’d leave campus to go to the mall, movies, or order take out. I’ve had a car and a cell phone since I was 17 so I knew to put aside money for gas and my monthly cell phone payment every pay period or month. What drove me crazy was knowing fellow dorm mates who got paid same time I did, but they were broke the next week. They ordered the same take out or saw the same movie I did but didn’t think about making their money last longer. Their lack of thinking ahead meant they couldn’t drive the next week or their phones got cut off.
I’d say ” you got paid last week. Why is your phone cut off?” They’d reply “I spent the money already. They should’ve sent the bill last week”. When I noticed the pattern I started to distance myself.
4. People who always need help. I don’t mind helping anyone if I am capable, but my gears grind when people repeatedly need assistance. They get themselves into situations, but think everyone else is supposed to help them out of it. They can’t pay their bills so someone else should handle it. They have the newest of clothes, shoes, or technology but since they don’t drive someone else is supposed to give them a ride. Now that I think about it; maybe they do have enough common sense to prey on people willing to help. Hmmm
5. Social media disclaimer re-posters. I crack up at people who copy and paste the disclaimers that say “…channel 13 announced Facebook will be charging people or publicly sharing your photos unless you copy and post the status saying you don’t authorize it.” If Facebook is going to charge you they will send you a bill. That status means nothing. As for your photos, as long as ONE person sees your pics online; ALL of your images and status updates are fair game to the WORLD.
Common sense is a learned practice. We learn it from our experiences and what we are exposed to, but we also learn from realizing what we do want and do not want to happen in our lives. One thing’s for sure – I’ve got to stop explaining it to people before I end up being one of the no common sense examples.